29 October 2020

Sonja (Cheryl)



15 years ago the one and only Dope City Free Press began as a means to tell some stories about a man named Beer and his dog the Hammer. Soon other characters joined, characters which, like the Hammer filled Beer’s days with joy. Chief among those characters was Beer’s long time love Sonja.

Sonja and Beer met in 1967 when her oldest brother Henrik invited Beer over to his parent’s place after school to play marbles. Sonja was 3, Beer was 8. Sonja’s mom tried to keep her Shirley Temple lookalike daughter from playing with the boys that day and for many years afterwards. Sonja was always real good about listening to her mom but was deaf to the no playing with boys shit. Her mom was right of course. Over the years Sonja suffered many injuries playing with the boys. Her dad, tasked with taking his girl to the hospital, would always stop at the Dairy Queen on the way home once the doctors had fixed her up.

When Sonja was 14 her mom died. The next couple years were tumultuous for her as a result. Her dad re-married poorly and soon his second wife drank up their savings and the proceeds of the family home sale. Still she was determined to overcome this setback and make a good life for herself.

Beer meanwhile was living a life that made Sonja’s stepmom look like Mary of Guadalupe. He was taking on whatever sawmill work he could find and living like there was no tomorrow. Still friends with Henrik he could not help but notice Henrik’s tomboy little sister becoming more attractive and more feminine. At a New Year’s party they found themselves attracted to one another. Beer walked her home that evening and began questioning his life plan which was to remain a bachelor until he retired should he surprise everybody and live that long.

Shortly thereafter, on a snowy, blustery day Beer spotted Sonja returning home on the sidewalk from the neighbourhood mall’s concourse where he was sheltering from the storm. Sonja was carrying several bags of groceries, her body bent into the wind. “Fuck is that admirable,” he thought as he followed her out of sight. Beer admired many things but none more than a willingness to work hard in poor conditions.

Later that evening Beer phoned Sonja and asked her out on a date on St. Valentine’s Day. She accepted. Beer was a cute crazy fucker after all. Their dinner date was at a new restaurant in town. The first fancy restaurant their working class neighbourhood had ever seen. They fell in love that night. A love that would last just shy of 40 years.

The pair soon shacked up together and lived well, you might even say they lived the Canadian Dream, despite the trying economic times they lived in. Sonja’s practicality balancing Beer’s Jerry Jeff Walker act to perfection.

Sonja died in hospice on September 26, 2020 after a valiant 6 year battle with cancer. Beer is always going to love her. Near the end of her life she told Beer's mom and stepdad, "Your son is a good man. He's a really good man." Beer never set out to be anything more than that. He will miss Sonja until the day he too makes his way to the other side.

13 comments:

Chuckstraight said...

Very sad to read this Beer. Condolences and best wishes to you in these times.
Reading this gave myself and my own dear wife tears.

RossK said...

Aw, crap, Beer.

From your writing it was obvious that Sonja was a great, great person and you were the luckiest guy in the world.

I think the time has come for Hammer II to arrive on the scene - He/She will make things better.

Play that music long and loud.


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Lulymay said...

That was a long struggle, Beer. Thank you so much sharing her legacy with your readers and I too send my sincere condolences.

Mr. Beer N. Hockey said...

A few tears never hurt anybody. I have shed a few writing for Sonja’s many distant Facebook friends who were wondering why she’d gone silent about a month before she died; wrote her obituary which the Province published under her proper name of Cheryl Gordin on October 18th; and, most difficult of all oddly enough, let those of you who still read the DCFP know as well. It is why I have not been real motivated to write in this space much. I hope to improve upon that.

For those of you who may do research or practical work bringing about cancer remedies you might like to know Cheryl lived long enough to benefit from a newly introduced drug called Lynparza. It gave her about 15 months of quality life after she’d already had the disease for over 4 years. We both really appreciated that quality time as it was unexpected.

A new dog may well be in my future. Going to give myself a half year before I decide whether I am positioned well enough to take on a responsibility as big as that.

RossK said...

Lynparza is one of the most important biologics out there Beer. Glad to hear it helped Cheryl.

We're working on the development of a biologic with a very different mode of action/target that we hope can be useful against the same two diseases that lynparza works on.

The idea is that when you whack using more than one target you can overcome resistance and give longer remission.

I hear you on the wait for dog decision...We're doing the same around here.

Mr. Beer N. Hockey said...

Keep up the good work buddy.

Anonymous said...

Beer

You have all my condolences in this hard time in your life. You made Sonja come alive with your writing here on Beer & Hockey; I feel like I've lost someone I didn't even know.

All the best moving forward, my friend

Mike

Glen Clark said...

So sorry to hear this. Nothing tougher. know you have lots of fans rooting for you.

Danneau said...

Dear Mr. Beer,
This is a sadness as difficult to contemplate as these rare relationships are difficult to find. How can those who hold you dear lessen the suffering? Likely, there is no way, and we can only hope that time will dull the pain, and that supportive admirers will help you keep that sharp middle finger in fighting form as a way to wring the best out of our remaining days.

theo said...

Oh Fuck. I am so sorry, Beer.

Anonymous said...

So sad to hear this Beer.

I have always loved your writing, a big part of which has been about your lady. It's inspiring to hear about the adventures you both have shared, from pubs to racetracks to mountain getaways.

Thank you Sonya for loving this man and letting him take the time to follow his passion to tell stories, stories which we readers cherish for their honesty and balls.

Beer, I'm raising a glass of red wine now to your love.

Jonku

Mike (fencer) said...

Mr. Beer,

I started to read this today, and at first was glad to learn more about your history, and Sonja's. Then I was saddened to realize it marked the passing of your love. I always enjoyed reading about your occasional escapades with her. Take care during these trying times....

Regards

RossK said...

Jonku!